What Works

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I thought about naming my business ‘What Works.’ Why? Because I have discovered, through a lot of trial, error, and righteousness, that it’s not about what you’ve been taught, what you’ve always done, what you practice, or what your religion, parents, government, reality tv, or the Internet have taught you. What it’s REALLY about is What Works. I mean, think about it. Take parents, for example. We have all watched parents (often in our own mirrors) make the same interventions over and over and over (and over and over), with the same lack of positive result and, instead of CHANGING SOMETHING, they blame their children for not responding “appropriately.” They blame their children! Their children who are two, three, four, five, whatever age old! They reason with, yell, and punish their offspring for their own lack of creativity in finding what WILL work instead of insisting on what doesn’t and then blaming someone for it.

Sound familiar? 

Parenting is actually an easy example. Let’s use relationships, too, so as to go a little deeper into the pathology of this very dysfunctional way of insisting life works. You find you have the same issue come up with your partner. “This again?!” “I can’t stand the way you ____!” (<- fill in the blank .. Anything from ‘leave your dirty clothes on the floor’ to ‘don’t listen to me,’ ‘ don’t give me what I need when you KNOW what that is,’ ‘do that when we are in public,’etc). You TELL them all about their wrongness as you spew your righteous indignation all over them when what is REALLY happening is you are repeating YOUR same patterns over and over.  I am promising you here today, that it will not be until YOU do something to PERCEIVE that particular part of life differently, that anything will have the possibility of changing.

How do we go from repeating patterns that don’t work, to creating ones that will?

I am so glad you asked!

 

Kate’s Four Tenets of What Works

  1. Have A Morning Practice And DO It
    No excuses. Meditate for 10-20 minutes (link to a page on how to meditate), followed by a conscious influx of positivity .. It can simply be filling all of your cells with Light, watching a positive video on YouTube (link to Recommendations page) singing an uplifting song, and/or making a positive statement of intent for your day (i.e.: What’s it going to take for me to have my best day yet?). What is most important is that you consciously OPEN to RECEIVING the positivity into your system. 

  2. Clear Out The Old Patterns
    We humans are, as a collective species, lightening our loads from the past. It’s unavoidable anymore so we may as well surrender to it. What this means is, whenever an old grievance pops into your experience .. People aren’t respecting you, you don’t have enough money, you feel fat, you are frustrated with your lack of real fulfillment in your relationships and/or life, you can’t stop over-medicating .. Instead of taking is SO personally (in other words, beating yourself, or anyone else, up for it), you jump right on CLEARING it. My next blog will be on how to do this.

  3. Tell The Truth Out Loud .. To Your Self And Everyone Else
    Oh man, if you haven’t already learned how The Truth Will Set You Free, you are in for a treat of treats. The thing nobody tells us about the truth is that it doesn’t go away just because you aren’t willing to acknowledge it. In actuality, it seems to get stronger with each act of denial, until it comes out to bite us where it hurts most. So why not just say it? Usually it is because we feel we have something significant to lose if we do. While this may have been true in the past, it no longer is. We are living in a time when SO MUCH MORE is possible for each of us as individuals. Since the divorce rate skyrocketed in the 70’s and 80’s, men have learned how to nurture relationships and women have learned how to go to work. We have lived several revolutions in the past 40-50 years, all of which have left us with a lot more FREEDOM than we have known what to do with. It is time for each of us to live our truths with confidence, warmth, and excitement for what is possible for us, our loved ones, and our world
     
  4. Decidedly Choose Positive
    This is both the icing on the cake and the core of the latest revolution. What you focus on expands. So what you have to ask yourself is, “What do I want more of?” If you want more worry, then, by all means, go ahead and focus on what worries you .. But I if you want more FREEDOM, if you want more HAPPINESS, or RESPECT, or MONEY, or FREE TIME, then you are going to have to spend significantly more of your time and energy focusing on what those things would feel and be like to be living right now. Choose to talk about what you love. Choose to talk about what would be great to have and what it will feel like when you have it. Choose to talk about what you like about people, your home, your friends, family, town, country, and world, no matter what you see on the outside that may contradict these desires. The esteemed Mike Dooley from Tut.com says, “Thoughts Create Things. Choose Good Ones.” I invite you to test this out. It, most definitely WORKS. 

Ponder what I am proposing here, will you? I will be writing pieces on each of these tenets over thenext few weeks so that you can, more easily, understand HOW TO bring them into your daily life. 

Sending you much love 🍥

xoxo, Kate

 

Kate Satten is a Personal Trainer for the Heart & Soul. In our culture, where the focus is so heavily weighted on the mind and physical body,. Kate helps to bring balance and healthy perspective to your life by turning you on to the places where your system is begging you to wake up.

Kate WELCOMES feedback and questions as long as they are civil and respectful of everyone’s perspectives. Any and all blaming, shaming, and/or offensive language will be promptly removed from this site.